If you’re like most people with a conscience, you were probably rendered speechless by the actions of Constance McMillen’s classmates and school.
If you haven’t heard, a quick recap: Constance, a lesbian student in Fulton, Mississippi, wanted to attend prom in an out fashion like all straight people are entitled to. The school canceled the entire prom rather then have her attend. After legal action, a prom at a country club was arranged. So Constance went to the prom on Friday, and found only seven people (including two mentally disabled students) in attendance.
Even if you are familiar with the ridiculous lengths Southern schools go to to avoid dancing with undesirables, it’s still not a story to read in the wee hours of the morning. I saw red. No way was I sleeping now. Relief was necessary.
Luckily, I found a slight bit of schadenfreude for your reading pleasure. At comment number 8 in the top article, “begleg10” stands up for the much maligned school (bolding mine):
I am a senior at IAHS, and I’ve known Constance for the last 6 years. Please hear our side of the story before you decide on our fate.
The party we had in Evergreen (the county neighborhood I live in) is 30 mins away from the school. we rented out the community center, hired vendors, decorated, and our parents ran the security/chaperone staff- but it wasn’t prom. Prom was at the country club where constance and 7 other students were. The reason the senior class boycotted the actual prom was not because we hate gays. We wanted a drama-free gathering to celebrate 3 great years and 1 lousy one together, and we wanted to lay low. We also wanted to do it without the main cause of the lousy. What people are failing to realize is that much of the fault of this whole stink lies with Constance, not her mistreatment by the school district, but her crazy-reckless need for attention. It sounds mean and horrible and like we planned it all specifically to embarrass Constance, but we didn’t. We let her have her prom with her girlfriend and her tuxedo and we went to party it up in the “boondocks” not because we wanted her rights violated, but so we could salvage what has turned into a total fiasco. As a whole we didn’t support her decision to throw the district under the bus, or her insinuations that we’re all just a bunch ‘a hicks driving around in beater pick up trucks spitting tobacco and burning crosses. IAHS is one of the top schools in the state and I’m proud of that, and I’m proud that we took a stand and just said you know what? forget it, we have just as much right as you do to have a party for ourselves. So we did, and now we’re getting flack because poor Connie’s ego got a bit of bruising. She’s playing the lesbian card to prove she ALWAYS gets what she wants. This time, we didn’t just let her.
Take it as you will, because I’m sure it sounds like we faked her out, but understand this- the decision NOT to attend prom had nothing to do with the school or with Constance’s sexual preferences; it had everything to do with proving we weren’t going to let her and the ACLU steamroll us into doing what Constance wanted. We flexed the muscle of the majority and we’ll suffer the consequences.
Thank you for sharing that tale of bravery and integrity. Laying low to avoid drama. You’re a regular Nelson Mandela.
She was so driven to stand up for the strong and uptrodden* that she forgot a few critical rules of thumb. The big one, of course, is “if you try to excuse your glad participation in a cruel, cowardly and much-publicized stunt, don’t use a username that points to your Facebook page. Especially if you plan on a career in journalism. You breathtakingly atrocious idiot.”
Now begleg10, AKA Lindsey Begley, will forever be linked with this event, for the Internet never forgets. Perhaps her journalism dreams can still be salvaged; maybe Fox News will give her a show, if she plays her cards right. Cash in on the wingnut welfare girlfriend!
She’s not the only brilliant bird either. Many other promgoers also have Facebook profiles and other Internet droppings, complete with captions of mocking laughter, brave statements of defiance to the gay hoard of one and her mentally disabled cronies, and photos of hideous prom dresses. They’ve even set up a whole group called Constance, Quit Yer Cryin’, which has apparently already backfired.
Welcome to the 21st century, Itawamba High! Have you been acquainted with the Internet Archive? Believe you me, I would love to pretend that I never made a Gilbert Gottfried fansite on Tripod’s free website service when I was in middle school. But I can’t, because the Internet never forgets. Luckily, Gilbert Gottfried appreciation isn’t likely to result in rejected college applications or being passed over for jobs.
I’d love for mindless status quotians** like Lindsey to put down their arms and live in mutual respect with us undesirables. But if that’s not feasible, I’ll be happy to aid in their fall and ostracism if they set themselves up for it. Maybe you need to stop playing the entitled victim-blaming twit card to get what you want.